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Wednesday, August 15

A little bit terrified



I think the reality of our adoption is finally starting to sink in a little. After the euphoria of last week, finally knowing that we are NEXT, the scary stuff has now started to surface. WHAT AM I DOING?????!!!!! Arghhhh!! I remember feeling this way shortly before both my DS and DD were born, so I guess it is natural, but boy am I feeling freaked out. Stepping into the unknown world of IA is a really scary thing to be doing, and I find myself wondering if I will have what it takes to parent this little one. She will be grieving, scared, terrified, and feeling very, very vulnerable. I just pray that I will be able to meet her needs and be a good mum to her, as well as continuing to be mum to my other kids. I am also feeling a little worried about how they are going to cope with the 'new addition'. DD, I am pretty sure, will be fine - she has been very excited about and supportive of our decision to adopt, and is thrilled that our time is almost here. DS, on the other hand, has not been quite so thrilled. I think he feels a little threatened about Alice replacing him as the 'baby' of the family (understandable really) and has been quite apathetic at times about the adoption, even going so far as to voice his unhappiness about it on several occasions. What do you say when your DS tells you that 'Our family is big enough just as it is'??

Hopefully this is all just pre-referral jitters, and I will be OK when I need to be. For those of you who know me personally, you will also be aware of my massive phobia of flying, which is also playing on my mind rather frequently. Thirteen + hours in the flying tube of death to China does not thrill me at all.....Must go and see the doctor about some Valium.....

5 comments:

Shannon said...

Yep. Scared out of my mind too. And loving every minute of it!!! Hey, I'm not even afraid of flying and the valium is sounding good to me. ;-)

Anonymous said...

If you weren't worried and jittery, then I would be very worried.

Susan

Tracy said...

The flight is long, I will definitely agree. I did the Hong Kong trip last year to see my brother (I flew there alone - and I am afraid to fly, too) - so I will say that it's not too bad other than how sore my legs and neck were and how crabby and tired I was ;) I think those emotions overshadowed my fears - LOL.

Tracy
LID 11/22/05

Glori said...

I would say that you are going through a very normal process & like Susan I'd be more concerned if you had no worries or nerves or anything. You will do just fine - look at your DD & DS to remind yourself.

Glori said...

On a totally different front I LOVE that image!